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JoeJustice
02-11-2010, 08:51 AM
I’ve been reading more and more stories about how women are fed up with men. How there are no longer any real men out there. How men are no longer the leaders of the household, bread winners or emotional foundation. They’re all just a bunch of immature boys who would rather play Xbox than take a lady out to a proper dinner.

Believe it or not, this is GREAT news if you’re a young man! Just think about it, you’ve got all of these overgrown boys out there competing for the same women you’re after. Back in the day, you might have had to really put in the effort to stand head and shoulders above the crowd. Now all you have to do is take a young lady to a place with table setting and she’ll think you’re a real alpha male. Now, pull the chair out for her and man oh man! Watch out! :wink:

I believe there are three legs to the stool of manliness. Three characteristics you should aim for that will really set you apart from your peers. Having just one of these will get you so far, two will make an impression, but if you possess all three, then you’ll truly be a man among boys and really will be head and shoulders above all the other folks with the Y chromosome. Not only that, but these three characteristics feed into each other and work synergistically to make the whole far more than the sum of the parts. If you don’t believe me ask Theodore Roosevelt, Julius Caesar, Genghis Khan, William Wallace or any of the other great men in history who poses all these traits.

The three traits are Physical Fitness, Self Confidence and Dependability.

Physical fitness is fairly straight forward, but let me give you this bit of advice; don’t be all show and no go. You want to be the kind of man that can do more than just look good in a pair of swim trunks. You need to be able to run, move, carry and fight both to save yourself and to save those who depend on you.

Self confidence isn’t having a massive ego and believing the sun was hung just to give you a tan. Self confidence is about knowing yourself; knowing your strengths and weaknesses and honing your skills in order to maximize your strengths and mitigate your weaknesses. Be bold. Know what you can do and do it. Never be ashamed or embarrassed of what you’re capable of whether it’s being able to do 20 pull-ups, being a master wood worker, automotive technician or computer programmer. Know it and own it!

Dependability is what ties it all together, it’s the real key. Dependability is more than just keeping your word, though that is crucially important. Dependability is about taking on responsibility. Be the man that people look to for help and guidance. Be the man that is there when someone needs a shoulder to lean on or just help rearranging their furniture. Always defend the innocent and let people always know they can rely on you to do the right thing, even when the right thing is tough.

Here’s the hard part with dependability. As you forge dependability, people will begin to depend on you. The hard part is not letting them down! It’ll be a hassle at times, and you’ll get frustrated with people’s demands on your time. But that’s part of being man. That’s what separates a man from a boy. While no one looks to the boys for help, because they know they’ll be watching a movie or playing Playstation, they will look to you because they know that you will DO something.

All the while coach them on self reliance and help them to achieve what you’ve achieved. Trust me on this, my friends; it will all come back to you. All of the help you give to others and all of the energy you expend forging relationships and building community will come back to you many fold. It’s something you’ll just have to experience for yourself to really appreciate but until you do, just take my word for it.

All three of these attributes work together. Fitness feeds confidence, confidence comes from dependability, dependability requires fitness. Added together they make for one hell of a manly man!

Now get our there and act like you’ve got a pair! :freaked-out:

-Joe
:)

John Peterson
02-11-2010, 09:08 AM
Hey Joe Justice,

That is one fantastic post. Inspiring and absolutely right on the mark. I hope every forum member reads this. And you are so right. this is great news for young men.

---John Peterson

monty
02-11-2010, 10:20 AM
Hey Joe,

Everyday after high school track practice I give my distance runners a thought of the day. (55kids)
This can be a story or a quote. I am going to use this today if that is okay. I also think it works for the girls too. At the school I work at the boys are so immature due to being spoiled and their parents do just about everything for them. The girls are stuck up due to the same sickness of affluence.

Thanks for sharing this.

Monty

JoeJustice
02-11-2010, 10:47 AM
Monty, I'd consider it an honor if you shared this with your students! Let me know how they react. :)

-Joe

MikeNY
02-11-2010, 11:36 AM
Joe well said! I won't point out there is a reason for the new man and that it is a political agenda. I preferr the old style man like you more than the new and better model being pushed by Liberals. Better a real man than a crybaby adult male, pre-eunuch the Left demands of all men. I've come to see that taking responsibility is what new Left men are not doing any more. That might well be why we see men abusing women like little sissies rather than being the provider and protector.

Joe you really are a certified He Man. And you are level headed. A good example for Monty's Team.

April
02-11-2010, 02:13 PM
Joe, sometimes I think I post too much.

But I can't keep quiet about your post.

I've got to second what John said: FANTASTIC.

And ON TARGET.

One of my life goals has been to raise sons who won't make their wives miserable, or, to put it in the positive, who will make excellent husbands. This particular post of yours gives some important keys. Thank you for spelling it out.

Your posts are adding a whole new dimension to this forum.

Good job, Joe.

b38
02-11-2010, 05:23 PM
Joe,

If any man possesses those traits, he can take care of himself and others. The purpose of a man's life is to be of service to others!

It's not enough to teach our sons to be men. We have be examples for others.

It's not enough to teach our sons to be men, we have to teach our daughters to expect nothing less from their men.

All the Best Joe!

Bill

djanello
02-11-2010, 06:35 PM
Greetings Joe!

Great post and followups !

>> ’ve been reading more and more stories about how women are fed up with men. How there are no longer any real men out there. How men are no longer the leaders of the household, bread winners or emotional foundation. They’re all just a bunch of immature boys who would rather play Xbox than take a lady out to a proper dinner.

Uh oh, looks like you haven't seen it before. This is classic feminist shaming language.

If you lived in a Blue State you would be getting this 24x7x365. Let's hope it doesn't spread out to your neck of the woods.

What I'm about to say may seem really out-there but you may need it if you spend time in NYC or a major urban area.

Basically shaming language is a mind-control technique that has two essential components:

a) an appeal to a man's hard-wired biological protective instincts and

b) a simultaneous put-down or denigration of men on a personal level, often irrational in nature. The statement that "men don't have an emotional foundation" is a good example of an unprovable, irrational assertion stated as fact.

A good way to identify feminist shaming language is to replace the word "men" with an oppressed minority group, for example, "Jews" , "Blacks", "Gays". If you end up with something sounding like Hitler or the KKK wrote it you have the real deal.

The MSM uses the shaming language all the time to push their agenda, it is especially effective against traditional, masculine men. I'm still a sucker for it and have to kick myself to avoid getting manipulated.

>> The three traits are Physical Fitness, Self Confidence and Dependability.

This is why I get my news from transformetrics.com instead of the negative mainstream sources.

BTW great handstand video!

MikeNY
02-11-2010, 07:14 PM
djanello; you are an honest and brilliant man.

djanello
02-11-2010, 09:14 PM
MikeNY,

Man, you have my sympathy. Anybody who gets that last post has a minimum of 4000 indoctrination hours under his belt.

Guess it's our duty as residents of Sodom and Gomorrah to warn the rest of the folks what is coming down the road.

Johnny
02-12-2010, 07:34 AM
Joe my friend,

You are what separates the boys from the men!

Great post and great insights as usual.....i'd like to add that those three traits should also be found in women.
The beauty of this forum is that one gets to polish his manners and principles while getting lessons in fitness and health....a great combination!

MikeNY
02-12-2010, 07:47 AM
djanello your post made me laugh and you are an honest soul. Truth is stranger than fiction and maybe after a life in the land of political correctness all that matters now is the truth. Keep up the good work.

Johnny good insights!

JoeJustice
02-12-2010, 08:03 AM
i'd like to add that those three traits should also be found in women.


True, but I never give women unsolicited advice. You learn that real quick when you get married :shut-mouth:

djanello and Mike, Yeah... you see those kinds of laments from women coming out of the New York Times and The Huffington Post. And that's a political as I'm gonna get!

-Joe

MikeNY
02-12-2010, 08:30 AM
Joe I read the NY Times and sometimes the Huffington Post. Life is strange and to be enjoyed.

monty
02-12-2010, 08:55 AM
Joe!

I read over your "Man Post" to my distance kids and I also told the girls that this pretains to you too and covered some things with them. The response was great. Some of the boys said they want a copy of your post, so i will copy it ,just deleting the 'gotta grow a pair" quote which I love but parents may get weird on that.

I loved reading it to them, I think it was confronting for some and good stuff for others. Gotta tell you there are still young lads that want to grow up to be good men and good women. We read too much on the negative in the press but their are still some great kids out there that give me hope for the future.

great post!!! I will get a lot of miles out of it.

Monty

JoeJustice
02-12-2010, 09:12 AM
Tell those parents to grow a pair!!!

I'm only KIDDING!!! :tongue: I can dig it.

Monty, you really made my day... my whole weekend! I'm really thrilled to read your post. I know there are plenty of good kids out there who want to become good adults. AND THEY WILL! Especially with good teachers/coaches like you.

-Joe

djanello
02-12-2010, 01:36 PM
>> djanello and Mike, Yeah... you see those kinds of laments from women coming out of the New York Times and The Huffington Post. And that's a political as I'm gonna get!


Joe, this stuff isn't just in the Huffington Post and NYTImes (gag). Blue State ladies will say this stuff to their husbands! Or on a date!

This explains why the younger guys with raging hormones are staying home playing Xbox instead of socializing with the opposite sex.

Even the hyper-sexuality in the media can't convince 'em.

MikeNY
02-12-2010, 02:39 PM
djanello in a way I was always exempt from that nonsense. As a "New York Italian" even ladies from Manhattan to Brooklyn know I'm not going to play that game and the rules are differnt. I think women want that old fashioned type of guy that will respect them and do the right thing. It was always an asset in dating to be an ethnic Italian.

That tradition is dying now with the younger Italian & Sicilian men, they are to Americanized. It lasted until the 1990s and should be brought back. My generation as kids learned to fight, respect, love God and the USA; children are to be seen and not heard, and oddly always ask questions.

In fact think women liked I always opened doors for ladies, paid the check, am respectful and they felt safe. Always joke about my looking very ethnic; but I do look like a good looking Sicilian Hitman. In a dark alley at night a crook see's me and they run, it works for me lol. The upside is an extended family and tradition. A father can see his son and knows he lives for eternity and a son can see his dad and know the family goes back to Adam.

VRT Man
02-12-2010, 03:09 PM
Hey Joe, you have hit the nail square on the head. As a former Webelos cub scout leader, and now a teacher to my son and his friends (and soon to open a class in a nearby community center to teach VRT), I find the information you've stated to be invaluable to "separate the boys from the men."

Too often in this post-modern and too jumbled-up society of ours today, REAL responsibility and REAL obligations to those around us, next to us and below us is totally lost. As I once mentioned in a post long ago, the ancient Greek idea of "Arete," or true manhood and responsibility, is often lost today on irresponsible and co-dependent men, who are really boys but simply a grown-up version of such.

A post worth remembering, especially for fathers and men who are in leadership positions.

--Greg Mangan
"VRT Man"

Andy62
02-12-2010, 03:21 PM
I totally agree with much of the sentiment expressed in this thread,but just a word of caution. I have been divorced a long time and I have been all over the US and much of the world. You can find the full spectrum of attitudes, positive and negative, any where you go. I have been single a long time and I have watched things get increasingly more ruthless. It may be the drugs or the increasing mobility of our society or the break down in the family and traditional values. I agree that there are many,perhaps most, women who would like the old fashioned type of relationship,but there are also women that you might take out to dinner who will see you as an easy mark because of it. Everybody, men and women, have to develop their abilites to screen and evaluate others. Always be on guard for people that display excessive anger. The single most important thing that you should look for in a woman is the relationship that she had with her father. A woman evaluating a man - the relationship that he had with his mother. Here we are back to "intuitive" abilities again - it is a survival skill -believe me.

Greg Newton
02-12-2010, 06:06 PM
Hey folks,

I like most the stuff I've seen in this thread - good job Joe - but this caught my eye:

and soon to open a class in a nearby community center to teach VRT

Good job and good luck Greg! I think this is a wonderful thing you are doing.

Greg Newton
the smaller and shorter Greg, well at least compared to you and Greg Rohm!